Child Brides: Legal Marriage, Illegal Age?
- Published on Thursday, 01 January 2015 06:46
- Written by Arief Irsyad
For some however, their childhood has
been compromised, as they are forced to grow up too quickly, a result of
being married at an early age. A curse, or a blessing, the bigger
question is, do children know what they are getting themselves into?
All For Love?
Love. Everyone wants to be surrounded by
this feeling and make sense of that very word as they perceive it to
be. While the ideal approach to embrace love is through marriage, would a
child at the age of 16 require the feeling of ‘love’ when they cannot
really make sense of most things around the world, and have yet to grasp
the different characters they meet, what more their intentions?
Logically, children know nothing of love
other than it being a mere feeling. Obviously, at 16, they are still
deemed illegal to go behind the wheels, what more watch 18+ rated
movies. But surprisingly, law has it that they can get married legally
in this country.
A young female adult unwraps her
sentiment towards young love and marriage.Masshiela Ahmad,in her early
20s,feels, “The act of marrying at an early age is so wrong on so many
levels. Girls should enjoy their lives and live it to the fullest, not
worrying about marriage or being forced to serve their husbands at such a
young age.”
“A child does not know what the real
world demands, it is not all fairy tales. Marriage is a huge
responsibility, being a wife is already a challenging task, let alone
bearing a child at such a tender age. Even I as a young adult, don’t
think I can shoulder such responsibilities, what more a child below the
age of 18?
“Love is not at all the question. It
takes hard work to actually know what love means. If it is about
religion, if you really love someone, you would be willing to wait for
them and be understanding towards its consequences,” she shares.
The Rise Of Underage Marriage In The Country
Throughout
the years, there has been a rampant increase in the application for
underage marriage according to a report by the Malaysian Syariah
Judiciary Department (JKSM).In 2010, a United Nations report also showed
that over 82,000 married women in Malaysia were girls between the ages
of 15 and 19. For the same year, the Deputy Minister for Women revealed
that nearly 16,000 girls below the age of 15 were in a marriage.
In 2012, there were about 1,165
applications for brides younger than the legal age of marriage. The
following year, the nation was bitten by the shocking news of a 40
year-old man who purportedly took a 13 year-old girl in Sabah as his
second wife with consent of both his first wife and her parents.
Since early 2014, JKSM revealed there
were approximately 600 applications forunderage marriages pendingthe
approval of the Syariah Court. And so far, approximately 446 out of
those applications were approved. The numbers suggest that it is a
common practice among Muslims especially, as well as indigenous
communities; however the ‘trend’ is also prevalent amongst the Indian
and Chinese communities.
When Does Religion And Law Come Into Play?
With these findings, one is bound to
wonder does religion really play a role in determining the statistics of
underage marriages? Are Muslims more confined to marrying at an early
age to curb adultery?Lakshmi Sundaram, global coordinator for Girls Not
Brides believes that child marriage is not officially endorsed by any
religion.
“People often use religion and tradition
to justify certain practices but it’s not really a religious obligation
by any means in any religion in the world. It must also be noted that
child marriages happen in all religions in the world. It is a problem
across the world,” she was quoted saying in a report.
According to civil law, the legal age of
marriage would be 18 years old. However, in Syariah law Muslim girls
under the age of 16 must get consent from the Syariah Court, as the
court will do a thorough assessment of a couple’s readiness to be
married. Section 8 of the Islamic Family Law (Federal Territories) Act
also states that the minimum legal age for Muslim boys to be married is
18, and 16 for Muslim girls.
In a recent case in Johor, a 15 year old
boy dropped out of school after marrying a 17 year old girl following a
two month courtship.We spoke to Selangor Mufti, Datuk Seri Mohd Tamyes
Abdul Wahid to further understand why such arrangements were allowed and
made permissible by the Syariah Court.
“Islam does not prohibit underage
marriage, as long as the couple are mature enough and understand the
circumstances and responsibilities that come along with the act, as
husband and wife. They need to be clear of the reason they are marrying
each other.”
Even the Quran (4:6) equates, “And test
the orphans [in your charge] until they reach a marriage-able age; then,
if you find them to be mature of mind/sound in judgment, hand over to
them their possessions…”
He continues to share, “Imagine getting
married at the tender age of 15, how would one possess the knowledge
required to be a responsible husband or wife? When for most, they are
only fulfilling their duties as a student.”
Marriage is no child’s play. It requires
a huge amount of responsibility, something children are definitely not
ready for. Before deciding to get married at a young age, children must
remember,“A marriage is a solemn pledge, and one needs to have the
similarity of belief systems and common ground to establish a healthy
relationship. Islam also makes no exception of this as one must be
psychologically and physically fit in all aspects to get married,” he
stressed out.
Too Little, Too Late
Underage marriage denies the rights of
children to realise and achieve their true potential.In our conversation
with 15-year-old ‘Anis’, she shares her experience of marrying a guy
she barely knew, only for a few months, and described how her marriage
ended in less than a year.
“He was my friend and I knew him for a
few months. We were in love, and next thing I knew he asked for my hand
in marriage.At first I thought he was joking, but then we talked it out
with our parents and I realised then that he was serious,” she said.
She tells us how she felt that she was
ready to be a wife to her husband who was 20 years of age. However,
reality hit her hard when she realised that she was not ready to bear
children and become a mother.
“While I was living with my in-laws, my
mother-in-law asked me of when I would conceive a child? That’s when I
realised that I couldn’t bear the thought of becoming a mother simply
because I wasn’t ready to become one.”
After her divorce, ‘Anis’ now continues
to lead her life as a student. She is currently waiting for her SPM
results and speaks of how glad she is to once again lead a single life,
without having the burden of carrying a second role as someone’s wife.
Is Prevention Really Better Than Cure?
While protecting dignity and preventing
adultery are main concerns where child marriages are involved, a better
question to raise would be − Are children able to provide proper
childcare and offer the right qualities of parenthood?
Muhammad Fauzul Fahmi, a banker in his
early 20s points that underage marriage may curb the society from
promiscuous behaviour, “The world is exposed to many social problems
these days. I believe a marriage would be the best solution to avoid
unwanted social illnesses.”
“I feel that underage marriage is
acceptable once both sexes have reached puberty.With the right level of
maturity, they would be able to make sense of what’s right or wrong.
Responsibility will naturally come with experience, and financial
matters will surely be sought after once a marriage is properly
consummated. All these problems are tiny hurdles, but it is better than
carrying a child out of wedlock,” he claims.
Is It Worth The Risk?
As young girls are still in the process
of physical development, they are just beginning to learn and understand
about their bodies and its functions. Some, barely have knowledge about
sex.Dr Noraida Endut, Associate Professor and Director of Women's
Development Research Centre (KANITA), Universiti Sains Malaysia, further
elaborates how younger girls are more vulnerable and are unaware of the
implications of having sex at a young age.
“Powerless and without the skills to negotiate for safer sex, these young girls’ lives are jeopardised by their early marriage.
“Children are not exposed enough to sex
education, and it’s definitely not right for them to have sex at such a
young age. They probably do it based on instinct,” she expresses.
Research also shows that complications
in pregnancy and childbirth are among the leading causes of death in
girls aged 15 to 19 in low and middle income countries. Apart from
physical health problems, underage marriage itself will make little
impact on the lives of young girls.
The dangers and health risks of underage
marriage surely needs to be thought through. Comprehensive public
education and awareness should be imposed, in addition to law and
judiciary enforcements in deterrence of this harmful practice. Clearly,
there is a greater need to convince parents too that a better future
exists for their children through education, and not through marriage.
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